Make Room For Personality

What is the most important quality you look for in a friend … boyfriend /girlfriend … wife/husband to be … or a group? Majority of people will say ”a good personality”. It is a such a broad word and I wonder what does it really mean? Hhhhmmm, In my opinion the meaning of a ”good personality” differs from everyone. I like happy, funny people, extravert, loving, creative, prayerful, etl.al people while others prefer quiet, studious, and serious people. I praise intellects and I value humor so I stay away from people who are so serious that you have to pay them just to smile or laugh hahahahhahahahahha. I hate when people are over the top sensitive that oftentimes it's OA – overacting! Well, these different factors are considered to be personality traits. Oh boy, now we're dealing with two words =) But let's define PERSONALITY and TRAITS ….

The dictionary defines PERSONALITY as:

1. Habitual patterns and qualities of behavior of any individual as expressed by physical and mental activities and attitudes; distinctive individual qualities of a person, considered collectively
2. The complex of qualities and characteristics seen as being distinctive to a group, nation, place, etc.
3. The sum of such qualities seen as being capable of making, or likely to make, a favorable impression on other people
4. Informal personal attractiveness; engaging manner or qualities
   

TRAITS are defined as "a distinguishing quality or characteristic, as of personality."

Hhhhmmmm, so In other words, this means that personality traits are the distinguishing characteristics that makes who you are. It is the unique set of characteristics and qualities that only an individual possess. While a lot of people might have similar personality traits, each person combines these traits in a different way, to create one unique, irreplaceable compact mass of traits that make up their individual personality.

But how does one achieve a ”successful personality”? We have to make room for our personality. We have to be open in experiencing new things and be not afraid of change. Everyone has the right to change but only for the best but how will you know which is best for you when you don't even try. We really have to examine ourselves. We all come from various religious backgrounds, culture, traditions, and beliefs but still we ALL know that we are responsible for our own actions. If we can assume responsibility for the things that have happened to our own lives, and when we can admit that the life we're living today was created as a result of our own actions, then that gives us extreme personal power to change the outcome of our individual life. We have to be open in experiencing new things and be not afraid of change. Everyone has the right to change but only for the best but how will you know which is best for you when you don't even try. When you try and fail just stand up and learn from own mistakes.